“Why not Volunteer?”
Heloise in her own words
"My name is Heloise and I am the manager of the 2017/18 U14s team at Fareham Heathens. Brief background to me... born locally into a Naval Family, educated in Devon, lived in a few places, travelled a little, settled back in home town, married to a chef
thank god!), have two children and now work for a law firm.
My son, Dom, started at Fareham Heathens for the U10s whilst Chris York was their coach. She developed and inspired the boys fantastically, so much that my son fell in love with the game. When one of the other mum’s turned up one Sunday morning at training and
started to put on her own boots, I asked what she was doing..... before I knew it I was playing rugby for Fareham Heathens Ladies team!
In my twenties I played Lacrosse for Hampshire and love sports even played a bit of rugby at Uni.... but it had been a few years and I hurt quite a bit after those first few sessions! Having said that, I’ve not experienced the support or the love and laughter that a rugby team has to offer anywhere else like the Hags can provide... especially in the scrum or on tour
.. I don’t think I’ve ever laughed so hard as I do with them! I’d like to think that it’s helped with my understanding of the game too.
My other favorite thing is to embarrass my children and that is how I came to become my son’s team manager. That was 3 years ago and I think that the current coaching team, parents and players are a fantastic bunch and we are looking forward to our first
rugby tour for the boys this year (eek!). Being a rugby team manager can be quite challenging at times, but the parents and players are great and we do have a laugh on the cold, wet Sunday mornings.
As team manager it’s been a very steep learning curve but I am so impressed with the support and encouragement the club has to offer and how they make sure that players are looked after, it’s hard not to want to be part of that. The club is a fantastic
family and I want so much for the players and the future of the club it led me on to volunteering a bit more for things like the Natwest Rugby Force weekend, helping out on a few occasions in the bar, fundraising a bit and being a general nuisance at th
Moving on to my favorite rugby players - my son and his team aside, my favorite current players are Joe Marler, James Haskell and Jack Nowell all for different reasons but mostly for their attitude towards their game. Have to say Jason Robinson and Jona Lomu are amongst my greats..... actually the list of players go on so I guess I don’t actually have a favorite player!
Rugby has taken over my life a bit and I love it! If it weren’t for the club, Dom wouldn’t have gotten the opportunity to trial and get selected for Hampshire Development or for London Irish which has made me an incredibly proud mum. Not just for getting selected but for how rugby has moulded him as a person.... yes, he’s a teenager and a pain sometimes but it makes me very proud to see him supporting his team mates and being respectful.
So for anyone considering volunteering at the club in any way I would say do it.... you won’t regret it, you may grumble a bit, but putting something back into the club and community has been enormously worthwhile and there is always someone who will he
you from the club who’s already been through it!
We are now at the end of 2017/18 season and I am an incredibly proud manager of a team that have come such a long way, thanks to their hard work and the work of the coaches. They have achieved so much individually and as a team.... they are such a determined bunch of players I can’t wait to see what they do next season. Very proud of them all."
Together & Strong
Updated 13:06 - 2 Apr 2018 by Bernard Rhodes